Today, it is more than normal to walk in school and see couples displaying an abundant amount of PDA. It is even encouraged to show affection. However, that was not the case in the past. In 2010, when political correctness was becoming a fairly popular thing, Facebook was the new cool thing, and glorifying sexual activities dominated the media. Teenagers began looking at high school relationships with new perspective.
2010 Saga students decided to cover the topic from different perspectives and discuss the pros and cons of young relationships.
Teenage Relationships Require Balance, Chris Canceres & Jordan Mantel, Staff Writers ( Volume XXXVI, Issue 5, March 2010)
In high school, many people form their first relationships. They often have their first kiss, and according to John Santelli, M.D., a pediatrician and adolescent health specialist from from Columbia University, these relationships reflect varying levels of intensity. The truth is, many of us find our first love in high school.
There is nothing wrong with having a significant other in high school, but, in modern times, it is not enough for a girl to wear they boy’s jacket or ring to exclusiveness, and in the boy no longer shows up at the girl’s doorsteps with flowers to ask for a date. Now, in order to be considered in love, a person has to spend every single chance that they get their significant other.
Studies show that teenagers crave intimacy and adolescent are beginning to date at earlier age. Today, the average the for a person to begin dating is 13. In 1924, the average age was 16. Research has shown that serious adolescent relationships, before either partner with is emotionally mature, can have ever detrimental effects for identity formation and even health. Adolescents who are dating who are dating because of peer pressure or a need to belong can experience significant disappointment. Teen pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, broken hearts, and depression are common themes in teenage relationships. It is estimated that 15 percent of teen suicides are due to the breakup of an unhappy relationship.
This is not to suggest that every teenage relationship is unhealthy, but when all a person does is spending time with their significant other, often times the couples’ lives are consumed for and the exclusiveness of the relationship proves to be destructive and unhealthy.
So the question is how serious is too serious? When every waking moment of a teen’s life is spent with a significant other, oftentimes friendships disintegrate and the relationship becomes a consuming entity, which can destroy other crucial aspects of the high school experience. Less that 2% of high school sweethearts end up getting married and not getting a divorce.
High school is what you make of it. It would be a shame to wake up one day and realize that you have wasted your youth, which is the only time in a person’s time where they can just “hang out” with their friends and goof off with no real responsibility to worry about. Most teens live in a bubble where they are only concerned with what is in front of them. But the truth is that there is so much out there we have yet to experience, and if we cut our experience, and if we cut our experience short because the only thing we care is our significant other, then we are doing injustice to ourselves as teenagers.
Take a moment and think about what you did last weekend. Ten think about the weekend before that and so on. If the answer is ” I hung out with my girlfriend/boyfriend the entire weekend,” then you need to ask yourself,” have I became completely consumed by my relationship to the point where I am losing myself?” If this is the case, then perhaps it is vital to reevaluate you priorities in order to relish the the little time you have of being young before life “real” and you have nothing to show for your youth.
However, high school relationships cannot be fully discounted. When a couple learns to balance their relationship with their friends, school, and sports, then a teenage relationship can be a positive thing that can teach a person about love and life. These relationships can broadens the horizons of those involved and can ultimately be a learning experience which will benefit a person later on in life. True love is rare at any age, it must be savored. It is when this balance is disrupted and the relationship becomes dominant that the teenage relationship becomes immature and juvenile.
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